如何變得魅力四射
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為什么有的人招人喜歡,人見人愛?為什么有的人不管走到哪里都可以廣交朋友?
 
Life isn't fair. Some people just seem blessed with the ability to effortlessly charm anyone they meet. You know the kind of person, the one who can strike up a conversation with a complete stranger and end up with a new friend or business lead. How do they do it?
 
Well, it might seem like a magical power, but in fact there are a number of factors at work. So, can you learn to develop superhuman charm? The answer is: to a large extent, yes you can.
 
But first, the bad news. Scientists have found that people initially1 judge each other based purely2 on physical appearance. With just a fleeting3 glimpse of a face, people make snap judgements about each other's likeability, trustworthiness and confidence, according to Alexander Todorov, professor of psychology4 at Princeton University.
 
How to counteract5 this? There's one incredibly simple tool: your smile. Todorov told the BBC that people perceive a smiling face as "more trustworthy, warmer and sociable6". It sounds like common sense, doesn't it? Smile and others will smile with you.
 
What other tricks might we have up our sleeves? Former FBI agent Jack7 Schafer has been trained in how to influence people. He told BBC Capital: "Our brains are always surveying the environment for friend or foe8 signals." Three things we can do to signal that we are not a threat are to: raise our eyebrows9 quickly, tilt10 our heads slightly, and, once again, to smile.
 
So we've looked at body language, but of course what you say is hugely important too, unless you want to just stand there grinning foolishly. Here Schafer recommends that "the golden rule of friendship is if you make people feel good about themselves, they're going to like you." In other words, you need to show interest in them, instead of talking about yourself and all your wonderful achievements. And while you're chatting, remember this: another way of showing interest is to mirror their physical position.
 
Another way to form a connection? Find common ground. Suzanne de Janasz, a professor of management with Seattle University, says that charming people are particularly adept11 at seeking out shared interests or experiences to help them build rapport12. Simple things like asking where someone's from really can open up a discussion and allow you to find areas in common. And if all else fails, you can fall back on that most British of topics: the weather. Glorious day, isn't it?


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1 initially 273xZ     
adv.最初,開始
參考例句:
  • The ban was initially opposed by the US.這一禁令首先遭到美國的反對。
  • Feathers initially developed from insect scales.羽毛最初由昆蟲的翅瓣演化而來。
2 purely 8Sqxf     
adv.純粹地,完全地
參考例句:
  • I helped him purely and simply out of friendship.我幫他純粹是出于友情。
  • This disproves the theory that children are purely imitative.這證明認為兒童只會單純地模仿的理論是站不住腳的。
3 fleeting k7zyS     
adj.短暫的,飛逝的
參考例句:
  • The girls caught only a fleeting glimpse of the driver.女孩們只匆匆瞥了一眼司機。
  • Knowing the life fleeting,she set herself to enjoy if as best as she could.她知道這種日子轉瞬即逝,于是讓自已盡情地享受。
4 psychology U0Wze     
n.心理,心理學,心理狀態
參考例句:
  • She has a background in child psychology.她受過兒童心理學的教育。
  • He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge.他在劍橋大學學習哲學和心理學。
5 counteract vzlxb     
vt.對…起反作用,對抗,抵消
參考例句:
  • The doctor gave him some medicine to counteract the effect of the poison.醫生給他些藥解毒。
  • Our work calls for mutual support.We shouldn't counteract each other's efforts.工作要互相支持,不要互相拆臺。
6 sociable hw3wu     
adj.好交際的,友好的,合群的
參考例句:
  • Roger is a very sociable person.羅杰是個非常好交際的人。
  • Some children have more sociable personalities than others.有些孩子比其他孩子更善于交際。
7 jack 53Hxp     
n.插座,千斤頂,男人;v.抬起,提醒,扛舉;n.(Jake)杰克
參考例句:
  • I am looking for the headphone jack.我正在找尋頭戴式耳機插孔。
  • He lifted the car with a jack to change the flat tyre.他用千斤頂把車頂起來換下癟輪胎。
8 foe ygczK     
n.敵人,仇敵
參考例句:
  • He knew that Karl could be an implacable foe.他明白卡爾可能會成為他的死敵。
  • A friend is a friend;a foe is a foe;one must be clearly distinguished from the other.敵是敵,友是友,必須分清界限。
9 eyebrows a0e6fb1330e9cfecfd1c7a4d00030ed5     
眉毛( eyebrow的名詞復數 )
參考例句:
  • Eyebrows stop sweat from coming down into the eyes. 眉毛擋住汗水使其不能流進眼睛。
  • His eyebrows project noticeably. 他的眉毛特別突出。
10 tilt aG3y0     
v.(使)傾側;(使)傾斜;n.傾側;傾斜
參考例句:
  • She wore her hat at a tilt over her left eye.她歪戴著帽子遮住左眼。
  • The table is at a slight tilt.這張桌子沒放平,有點兒歪.
11 adept EJIyO     
adj.老練的,精通的
參考例句:
  • When it comes to photography,I'm not an adept.要說照相,我不是內行。
  • He was highly adept at avoiding trouble.他十分善于避開麻煩。
12 rapport EAFzg     
n.和睦,意見一致
參考例句:
  • She has an excellent rapport with her staff.她跟她職員的關系非常融洽。
  • We developed a high degree of trust and a considerable personal rapport.我們發展了高度的互相信任和不錯的私人融洽關系。
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